One thing is clear about marriages and families impacted by the revelation of parental infidelity — there will be a reckoning. There will be damage and damage control. There will be an aftermath that will carry with it great sorrow and dissension. There will be pain and tears. There will be irreversible damage. There will be hell to pay and endure for generations.

If there were an official playbook for cheaters and adulterers, it would go something like this:

1. Deny
2. Lie
3. Deceive
4. Manipulate
5. Alienate
6. Blame-shifting
7. Slander
8. Defame

As we have consulted existing research and studies on infidelity as well as interviewed many cheaters who cheated on spouses over the last year or so, we have seen the evidence of a standard playbook used by cheaters and adulterers to avoid responsibility for their actions and the resulting aftermath of their infidelity. This unofficial universal playbook for adulterers has been refined over centuries.

We here at the CHADIE Foundation are working on a series of resources that expose the ‘malicious’ cheater and adulterer’s playbook, their tactics, their strategies, and their end goals. This ebook will focus on how to recover from betrayal and how to protect yourself, your family, and your friends from cheaters and their malicious efforts. We welcome your support in creating and providing needed tools, resources, and research to help build a better world free of infidelity and adultery. We envision a world where children are no longer impacted by the resulting emotional trauma that follows parental infidelity and adultery. We hope the tools and resources we create will help build better marriages, families, and children.

Recovering from Infidelity

If you have experienced infidelity-induced trauma caused by the emotional and sexual betrayal of your spouse, there is hope! If you are a child affected by parental infidelity, there is hope! If you are a spouse who has betrayed the trust, love, and fidelity of your marriage, there is hope! We recommend that you seek support through professional counseling and therapy as well as through groups dedicated to supporting you through this traumatic journey to recovery. You are not alone and recovery and healing are possible!

Share Your Story

The CHADIE Foundation shares personal stories of spouses and children impacted by infidelity and affairs. If you have a story you would like to share and have published, please use the contact information below to share your story with The CHADIE Foundation. Our mission is to help educate everyone about the damage infidelity, affairs, and adultery cause families and how to minimize the impact.

About the CHADIE Foundation

The CHADIE Foundation (Children are Harmed by Adultery, Divorce, Infidelity, and related Emotional trauma), helps spouses, partners, and children who adultery, affairs, and infidelity have negatively impacted. To learn more about CHADIE and how you can help, please email us at support@chadie.org or visit us at CHADIE.org.