(The following article is a contributed article obtained through an interview.)

To slow down and even thwart my efforts to document my wife’s adultery and neglect of our children, her adultery partner (we’ll call him Dick) fabricated and filed a temporary ‘stalking’ injunction case against me. I had secured a private investigator and attorney to help me gather evidence for my divorce and both my wife and her adultery partner were worried how this evidence would hurt them in both divorce cases.

Dick was married and concerned about his own divorce case and the mounting evidence against him so he filed and was awarded a temporary stalking injunction. Unfortunately, the court hearing date for the baseless temporary ‘stalking’ injunction was delayed due to a large COVID-19 backlog of court cases. So, I lived under the constraints of the temporary stalking injunction. Finally, the hearing date arrived and I was able to meet and defend myself against my wife’s adultery partner.

At the hearing, there across from me sat my wife’s adulterous affair partner, Dick. He was dressed in a tailored suit. There sat a man with no integrity or real conscience. There sat a man who was supposedly active in his Christian faith and religion. A former leader in his church even. A liar, cheater, and betrayer. He not only indulged his sexual desires with my wife but also kept his sexual relationship going with his wife throughout his affair.

His divorce was underway and his wife and children were dealing with their own trials and undergoing professional trauma therapy. Across from me sat a man representing a composite of all the evil this world has to offer in destroying families. He was the evil every husband, father, wife, and mother should protect their families from.

Despite his professional attire and groomed appearance, he was visibly nervous about having to appear at the hearing. As the hearing started, our names were read into the court records. The judge then asked Dick to explain his case since he chose to represent himself at the hearing. Unwittingly, while under oath, he admitted to his adultery in his opening statement and then proceeded to lie about his case for a ‘stalking’ injunction. When asked to produce evidence to support his claims, he was unable to provide any evidence at all. It became clear that he believed that his ‘feeling stalked’ meant he was being stalked. (He of course was being ‘followed’ by a private investigator which is legal and not ‘stalking’ as he would have liked the judge to believe.) Within minutes Dick’s case against me was dismissed by the judge and he was left embarrassed, guilty, and speechless.

It took months of attorney fees, time, and effort to vindicate myself from Dick’s baseless case against me. It was costly, time-consuming, and stressful but worth every bit of investment I made. Unfortunately, my family still had to pay the price for my wife’s infidelity, her insecurities, and her sexual lust which introduced our family and our children to a man without integrity or morals — their future stepfather.

Key Takeaways

As a husband and father, your family is always your primary priority to protect. In cases like this, a father can only protect his family to a point and then has to leave it up to the legal system to protect himself and his children from a vindictive wife and her adultery lover.

Recovering from Infidelity

If you have experienced infidelity-induced trauma caused by the emotional and sexual betrayal of your spouse, there is hope! If you are a child affected by parental infidelity, there is hope! If you are a spouse who has betrayed the trust, love, and fidelity of your marriage, there is hope! We recommend that you seek support through professional counseling and therapy as well as through groups dedicated to supporting you through this traumatic journey to recovery. You are not alone and recovery and healing are possible!

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