(This article is a contributed article.)
My husband was a fairly successful professional. He brought in a good income and provided a good lifestyle for us. As such, he wanted to show the world he was a success so it wasn’t a surprise to me when he decided to lease a Tesla.
Our marriage had more ups and downs than I like to admit. Some due to me and some due to him. I struggled at times with managing our young family while he worked odd hours for his job. Over the years, he withdrew from our marriage and family while finding more identity, reward, and recognition in his work than in his marriage and family. So as he acquired more toys and things, I assumed they were to placate his ego and cover up his growing insecurities but I was only partially correct.
It wasn’t until I found out about his affairs that I fully understood why he chose a Tesla for his ‘midlife crisis’ car. When I met with a private investigator to see if he could help me gather additional evidence of my husband’s infidelity, I learned why my husband had chosen a Tesla.
My private investigator informed me that Tesla cars were almost impossible to track via traditionally placed GPS devices because of the materials used to make a Tesla and the video surveillance of the vehicle when parked. (I now understood why my husband checked his Tesla’s recorded video footage regularly. I had assumed it was because he took great pride in his Tesla and enjoyed the attention having one gave him.)
While we were immediately able to place a GPS tracker on my husband’s affair partner’s SUV, it took several weeks for us to determine how to track my husband’s Tesla. It was no small feat and to our knowledge had never been done with a Tesla. (It’s amazing how innovative you can be when challenged with an unfaithful spouse.)
After several months of tracking my husband and his mistress, we gathered damning evidence of his sexual relationship and encounters with his married mistress. When my husband learned we had tracked and documented his adultery, neglect of our children, and deception, he threatened me and then threatened to sue or incarcerate anyone who gathered evidence of his affair. Suffice it to say, he went ballistic ranting and raving about how being tracked was a ‘violation of his privacy’ and life.
Our lengthy divorce eventually cost him his leased Tesla. He loved his Tesla and affair more than me, his marriage, and his children. Since our divorce, he has remarried and leased another Tesla. I sometimes wonder which one he loves more — his former affair partner turned spouse or his Tesla.
Recovering From Infidelity
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