As we enter a new year, many of us will be considering our life, habits, behaviors, and desires. Hopefully, we’ll also evaluate how we can enrich and beautify the lives of those we cherish and love. With this in mind, these theee resolutions focus on making the world a better place for our spouses, children, family, friends, and colleagues.

1. Be faithful and committed even when marriage gets hard! Life and marriage can and will be hard but how we respond in hard times is very telling of our character and integrity — or lack thereof. Your decisions are the building blocks of your life and legacy. Being unfaithful, uncommitted, and betraying those whom you love is no way to live or die. Even if you feel you have fallen out of love with your spouse — or that they no longer deserve your committed love, your honor and integrity are worth far more than any affair could ever be.
2. Do not start or engage in an extramarital affair! While you may think it would be tantalizing or exhilarating to begin an extramarital affair, it will only be the means of betraying your spouse, children, family, friends, and yourself. When you betray those you love, their lives will forever be changed and negatively impacted by your selfish betrayal and infidelity.
3. If you are in an extramarital affair, end it! If you are already in an affair, end it and ask your spouse, affair partner, and children (as appropriate) for forgiveness. There is no guarantee that they will forgive you but that is beyond your control given your decision to have an affair. Do what you can to make restitution, reparation, and reconciliation. You can still work on your marriage and in repairing what you have damaged.

Imagine a world where everyone lived these three simple New Year’s resolutions. There would be fewer divorces, broken families, and heartbroken children in the world. The world would undoubtedly be a happier and healthier place to raise children. Love would have greater meaning and commitment and generations of children would love their parents for honoring them and their marriages.

May we all keep these simple resolutions. Happy New Year!

Recovering From Infidelity

If you have experienced infidelity-induced trauma caused by the emotional and sexual betrayal of your spouse, there is hope! If you are a child affected by parental infidelity, there is hope! If you are a spouse who has betrayed the trust, love, and fidelity of your marriage, there is hope! We recommend that you seek support through professional counseling and therapy as well as through groups dedicated to supporting you through this traumatic journey. You are not alone and recovery and healing are possible!

Share Your Story

The CHADIE Foundation shares personal stories of spouses and children impacted by infidelity and affairs. If you have a story you would like to share and have published, please use the contact information below to share your story with The CHADIE Foundation. Our mission is to help educate everyone about the damage infidelity, affairs, and adultery cause families and how to minimize the impact.

About CHADIE Foundation

The CHADIE Foundation (Children are Harmed by Adultery, Divorce, Infidelity, and related Emotional trauma), helps spouses, partners, and children who adultery, affairs, and infidelity have negatively impacted. To learn more about CHADIE and how you can help, please email us at support@chadie.org or visit us at CHADIE.org.