Listen to What They Don’t Say

(This is a contributed article.)

I’ve recently read a few articles from self-proclaimed mistresses who openly and unabashedly offer advice to the wives of the men they have been cheating with. Some go so far as to explain why these wives have failed their husbands and why they are needed as mistresses to help these husbands through their terrible ordeal.

These mistresses’ articles generally go on to explain why the wives of their affair partners:

1. Have failed their husbands
2. Are pushing their husbands away when they are too busy to be intimate with their husbands
3. Are no longer fun and exciting
4. Deserved to be cheated on for not fulfilling their husbands’ needs and desires
5. Are looking like ‘moms’ instead of the women their husbands fell in love with before having children
6. Don’t deserve their cheating husbands

Let’s break down the invaluable benefits mistresses bring to marriage — beyond their unsolicited advice and self-help articles, of course. These benefits include:

1. Spreading and increasing the risk of STDs and STIs in marriage
2. Increasing the risk of divorce and separation because of infidelity
3. Distrust, fear, anxiety, and depression in the families they have affairs
4. Betrayal and abuse with the families they have affairs
5. Traumatizing spouses and children in marriages they have affairs

Now that we understand the tremendously valuable community service and benefits that mistresses bring, we can fully appreciate their selfless sacrifice for the greater good of society and marriage. They do what they do as mistresses to help struggling husbands who have no other option than to cheat on their wives. These helpless husbands can’t help that they are victims of life and must seek refuge in the arms and beds of mistresses.

We should all be thankful that there are mistresses out there who are willing to offer their adultery services to unfaithful husbands. If they weren’t so willing, these poor husbands would be left with only porn and prostitutes to console them in their marital misery.

Epilogue

In all of these unsolicited ‘advice’ and ‘self-help’ articles, what is glaringly missing and abundantly evident is most telling. These self-proclaimed marriage counselors lack conscience, character, and integrity. They step onto their self-made soap box proclaiming what is wrong with women in marriage — all the while destroying marriage and family unity. They assume that their ‘mistress services’ are critical services for men. They trample on the marriages of their affair partners, their children, their spouses, and their marital vows, then proceed to advise women on how they should act in marriage. You gotta love the irony here!

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