It seems ironic that so many cheaters adamantly defend their right to infidelity. They often deny any wrongdoing in having their affair. They feel entitled to pursue what isn’t theirs and hurt others. However, when asked if they would be open to someone cheating with their spouse or affair partner, they would likely sing a different tune.

Imagine a world where your spouse was the target of all of the opposite sex they came in contact with. Wherever you or your spouse went, your spouse would be hit on, propositioned, and flirted with. This would be their constant, nonstop experience wherever and whenever they went out. You would forever witness your spouse being the target of others’ lustful attention, passion, and desire. Whether your spouse was happy or unhappy in your marriage, they would be the relentless focus and attention of those looking to have a fling or an affair. Day in and day out your spouse would be pursued at work, restaurants, public events, church, the store, the gym, your children’s extracurricular activities, on social media, etc. They would be the endless target of seduction, flirtation, sexual advancements, and solicitation.

No matter what you said or did, they would continue to pursue your spouse. Even if you approached your spouse’s predator, there wouldn’t be anything you could say or do that would deter them from their never-ending pursuit and conquest of your spouse. They wouldn’t care that you loved your spouse, that you didn’t want them pursuing your spouse, or that your children would be traumatized by their behavior. They would not rest or relinquish their pursuit until their conquest of your spouse was completed.

Whether your spouse is offended or not by their never-ending romantic and intimate advances, they will continue. It would be one continuous loop of your spouse being hit on, propositioned, sexualized, and flirted with. You would be unable to stop it. A non-stop terror that you couldn’t protect your family from. Day after day, producing the same targeting and exploitation of your spouse. There would be no deviation from one day to the other — ever. It would be reliving the same nightmare night after night after night. They would never give up on pursuing and seducing your spouse.

Final Thoughts

The world you just imagined isn’t all that different from the world we live in today. At our current trend, we may be in that imagined world before midway through this century. Increasingly, men and women no longer respect or honor their vows or those of the married spouses they pursue. Those who pursue affairs are too blinded by their delusion, lust, fantasies, escapism, and pride to respect vows, marriages, families, and healthy boundaries.

Recovering From Infidelity

If you have experienced infidelity-induced trauma caused by the emotional and sexual betrayal of your spouse, there is hope! If you are a child affected by parental infidelity, there is hope! There is hope if you are a spouse who has betrayed your marriage’s trust, love, and fidelity! We recommend that you seek support through professional counseling and therapy as well as through groups dedicated to supporting you through this traumatic journey. You are not alone and recovery and healing are possible!

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The CHADIE Foundation shares personal stories of spouses and children impacted by infidelity and affairs. If you have a story you want to share and have published, please use the contact information below to share your story with The CHADIE Foundation. Our mission is to help educate everyone about the damage infidelity, affairs, and adultery cause families and how to minimize the impact.

About CHADIE Foundation

The CHADIE Foundation (Children are Harmed by Adultery, Divorce, Infidelity, and related Emotional trauma), helps spouses, partners, and children who adultery, affairs, and infidelity have negatively impacted. To learn more about CHADIE and how you can help, please email us at support@chadie.org or visit us at CHADIE.org.